Cherishing over amazing poems from ZNMD on Spotify,
with chill Friday mode in mind!
Hello reader! Glad you came back for this one. As we discussed choices and decision making practically and rationally in my previous article, it’s about time to flip the approach coin and talk about the other side. What is the other side of a practical approach towards anything? As you can guess by the title, it’s the emotional approach. We, humans, are social animals, we work our things out with either of two approaches, a practical one or an emotional one.
Before I go on further with what side of the approach coin is to be picked and then let me bring up some good and bad of both the approaches so that you are as familiar with the spectrum of choices as I am. Let’s start with practical choices and how they can go completely right or wrong.
Being too Practical
There’s a friend of mine, Ravi, now Ravi is a workaholic person. He works more than 12 hours a day on his day job as well as his other side projects and keeps pushing the bar. He’s very practical and hardly rests even on weekends. In fact, over weekends, he pushes harder and gets more done for his side-projects. This was pretty good for a couple of weeks, he believed he can get this streak going on for long. And had tasks calculated as per the cycle and kept ongoing. What happened next was that he didn’t realize but ended up delivering poor results in his work. Now, being as sharp as Ravi has been previously, everyone including himself was shocked at his performance degrading.
Never realizing the problem, until a friend pointed out that he has been mentally fatigued and all this downfall he was facing was because his brain needed more rest than he was providing. Physically, everything was perfect, he was not deprived of sleep but since his mind keeps running and running, he was facing mental fatigue and all he needed to get back to the game was to take some time off and have a regular break in his schedule. I am sure many of you, including me, have been like Ravi at some point or other in life. We, sometimes make so practical choices that we fail to realize the needs of our own well-being. That’s an instance where anyone would clearly say practical choices are wrong.
Or being too emotional
Now, to the emotional choices, here’s another story. Let’s say you make some artefacts, or coping up with the modern world, let’s say you are a graphic designer. And you are new and learning, and you’ve spread out the word to your friends and family. Learning and designing every day and getting good at it. Someday, one of your far family relatives comes around and offers you a project to design ‘n’ number of graphics. It’s the biggest project you’ve ever got. And since this is a person, you can trust, you feel like it’s a great opportunity and so on.
The initial few weeks are good, at a later stage you realize, that you aren’t that great of a designer yet, since you are still learning, and you won’t be able to deliver. Now you go and confront this person since you trust them emotionally. But this person, maybe he/she has some liability or not, or whatever his/her reason be, acts out like a proper client and threatens you with contract details etc. That very moment, you feel like, your emotional choice has brought down the worse out of the situation. Now, even though the dust settles after a while, but you’ve lost the touch with your relative which you once had, and it’ll never be the same. That’s how twisty emotional choices turn out to be.
Understanding the balance of the approach coin:
Okay, I think now you get the gist of things from both sides of the approach coin and here what we can conclude is, both practical and emotional choices can go right, and both can go wrong. Even the choice of which approach to pick is something that we eventually choose. Whether to deal with a situation emotionally or practically is a choice that we must make. But this choice is not as simple to come by as it sounds. You must train your mind for watching out for both sides of the coin before picking up one of them. Let’s talk about this approach with the same above examples, in the first one, Ravi could have easily thought about his emotional nature before picking up the side gig or committing to doing more work. He didn’t consider the emotional part of his being into account while picking up and aligning tasks for himself, which eventually led to burnout. While, in the second incident, instead of directly picking up the project from a distant relative, what the person could have done was find them a suitable candidate and have shadowed that person doing the job, thereby learning in the process.
We miss out on a lot of things if we go either emotionally or practically towards solving a problem. We are social animals, and we cannot go completely towards one side of the coin. The best and only fruitful solution we have is to approach the choices we have both emotionally and practically. I’ve had one such choice in my past and trust me when I say it from experience, you’ve to balance the scale to come out of choices with flying colours. For making positive decisions, both emotions and rationality have to play equal roles. If you understand the place from where your emotions come and start to notice why you feel a certain way about a choice or an option, trust me, my friend, you’ll realize how a certain emotion is contributing to your behaviour. And this realization itself is a great factor in your emotional growth.
We are evolving daily into the person we want to be, emotionally and practically. Today, reading this article has already brought you to a certain realization about choices and emotions, I would love to close this article with lines from my favourite movie, ZNMD, which just completed 10 years yesterday, some lines that will always be part of my journey and maybe yours too. This poem is just a reminder for us to keep going irrespective of all decisions, all choices we’ve made till today, learning for them and taking a leap forward to making better choices for ourselves ahead –
Dilon mein tum apni betabiyan leke chal rahe ho.
Toh Zinda ho tum!
Nazar mein khwaabon ki bijliyan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum!
Hawa ke jhonkon ke jaise aazad rehna seekho
Tum ek dariya ke jaise, leharon mein behna seekho
Har ek lamhe se tum milo khole apni baahein
Har ek pal ek naya samaa dekhiye.
Jo apni aankhon mein hairaniyan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum!
Dilon mein tum apni betabiyan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum!